ABOVER OR BELOW THE LINE - WHERE IS YOUR THINKING?

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EPISODE 68

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Is your thinking above or below the line? 
We all have things that happen to us on a daily basis. Somethings are a result from our own decisions and actions others are totally outside our control and we can’t change them.

What we can change though are our choices and the way we respond to the things that happen and it is the sum of these choices that determine our end destination in business and in life.

This week we discuss a mindset tool that will help you to change the way you think of problems and situations when they arise and guide you to make more clear and better decisions. 

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

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  • To identify your thinking when situations arise.
  • A mindset tool you can implement to make better decisions.
  • The distinct difference of thinking above the line or below the line when it comes to problems.
  • The benefits of implementing this level of thinking in your business and life.

EPISODE TRANSCRIPT

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Good day, good day and welcome to the Business Made Easy Podcast, where we made business easy. Jason Skinner, your host here for another week of the podcast. It’s all about giving you a better business, better business bottom line and a better life as a result. Thank you so much for joining me and I hope you well. It’s an exciting week here at Business Made Easy headquarters ’cause we up to see Bon Jovi tonight believe it or not. And before you start thinking Jason’s soft-rock diehard [laughter] tragic, It’s not so much me where getting for it’s for my wife she is a–, I think she’s being a fan of Bon Jovi ever since they’re, uh, babies themselves.. So every time they come to Australia it’s a must have to go to. Not that I’ll mind go over, I’m actually like their concept and put it in a great show. Every time that we’ve been, we absolutely love it but yes, she’s getting super excited about that at the moment so yeah, it’s gonna be a big night they say. Alright, I hope you well whatever is going on for you in business I hope it’s all ah– pumping along nicely for you. Um, If you haven’t already done some new listeners to the show, thank you so much for joining me. If you haven’t already done so, hit that subscribe button. uhm– . That will just make sure you hit each episodes that comes out each week and to our regular listeners, thank you so much for joining me again to. I’m glad your here as well, we got a great episode today. If anybody is interested in joining our free Facebook group feel free to do that at businessmadeeasypodcast.com/community and then there’s a great group of people over there all talking business and all things entrepreneur. Sharing their wins and victories, travels and struggles as well along the way so feel free to jump over there and join that businessmadeeasypodcast.com/community. Alright, speaking of travels, we are gonna talk about troubles today on business but today we gonna do a bit of a mindset exercise. This is some of the tool that I’ve come across recently and I’ve been using them. Absolutely love it. It’s a great way to look at problems and things like that when they coming to your business or in to your life for that matter. Anything that any troubles that we came across in life, which happen to all of us for all know that things aren’t going to be rosy and perfect every single day but what we can do is change the way we react to this things so in effect, if you think about it we have this stimuli I guess that things happen having that energy yet and things happening around us all the time wherever we are in business, home, with our family, on holidays, whatever, wherever we are there are always things happening around us and this energy and things happening to us as well. Outside of our control, we got things that we can control, um , you know our, our choices but this things happening that we just can’t control, they’re greater than us and all of us put together just it’s just the way world works unfortunately and fortunately, you know just depends on what they are, so they can be good or bad and we just don’t know how we are going to uh, what’s gonna crop up next you know, it could be driving down the road and you know, drunk driver pull out in front of you or someone running to you accidentally or anything could happen. um, but what we can, what we do then have this choices to those things so each day we going along and this things that are happening to us but we have choices that we can make to those things. And those choices, some of those choices that we’ve made all through our life that put us where we are today. We are where we are today because we’ve made choices to this things that are happening to us along the way. It’s interesting when you think of that because I often sitting and get a little bit philosophical but you think of this things just going day and day, people saying things to you. People, customers doing things on your business or suppliers are doing things to you. Your banks, whatever it is in your business and in your personal life. Things gonna happen and that’s just a fact, we just have to deal with that. We are now where we are because we’ve made choices along the way to all those things happening to us and the beauty of life is that where we are right now doesn’t mean that’s where we’re gonna be tomorrow or the next day, because we can make a choice, we can choose what our future is going to be, because we can choose how we respond to this choices at this stimuli this things that happen to us along the way and that’s just, that’s a great thing. That’s freedom when we have options and choices, this is were freedom comes from because we can choose, um, you know, uh- what we want to respond or how we are going to respond to those situations and some of those choices can be, um, you know, we may need to make difficult choices for our future benefit as well so, um, something that are happening to you now in your business and this two paths that you can go. You can go shortcuts and, um, and you know, the thing problem might come up again in the future or we can look at it and say “Okay, if I do this, what’s that future going to look like or how’s that going to plan out or do I have to do some sort of hard work here to deal with this so that in the future I have a better outcome of this problem not going to come up again” and that sort of decision making goes into business all the time because if you think of a particular problem and you know raises another episodes as well when we speak about syste You know, if It’s something that we’re doing that’s causing a problem repeatedly in our business, we can fix it once so we could fix it for good you know, we could create a template or a system or procedure or training, training our team to better handle that situation when it occurs then can have a better future as a result of investing that a bit of hard work upfront as opposed to just go “I’ll just fix this and move on”. Okay and that’s I guess what I’m talking about there. When I’m talking about you know, it’s taking one of the two roads that the E road or the hard road which one do we, do we take and I look in business, it’s easy to get busy and think I’ll just take the easy road but honestly, in my experience and trust me I’ve try it many many times, I’m a- um, a graduate of this this, um, the easy road just never work out the same unfortunately. um, you really do have to put in the work if you want the results at the end of the day. But what we’re gonna do today is give you a mindset tool and I wanna talk to you about this mindset tool when we making this choices just I guess the approach that we can use, the model that we can use to think about when we’re actually reacting or, or, or just making decisions around how we’re gonna respond to this stimuli that is happening to us. And I want you to– ah. We’re gonna go about a bit of mental exercises we do this, not crazy mental but thinking mental, ah, I want you to–um, I want you to think, I want you- you gonna be driving a car or maybe a gym something like that or at work in something. May not be easy to do this but I want you to, to stick with me in this and work through this with me and I’ll I’ll make it as easy as possible to pick to this script. I want you to picture a black piece of paper, just no lines over anything just a blank piece of paper– And with this blank piece of paper just sitting on a desk, I want you to picture somebody drawing a red line, a straight red line, horizontally across that paper, right in the middle of the paper. Just a horizontal red line right in the middle of the paper. And this red line, um, this here is I guess the boundary if you like, I want you think of this red line as a, as a boundary. Now, we’ve got space, white space below the read line, you could, um, you can picture, you got the red line in the middle of the page and horizontally and you could picture big white space below the red line and I want you to, uh, then picture the white space above the red line so we got two, we got two, two halves. Now, I want you to picture out somebody writing underneath the red line, vertically down the page the word- the letters B for Bob, E for egg and D for dog, they’re writing the word so B-E-D and then on the top of the line, on the top half of the line, they’re writing the word, the letters O for orange, A for apple, and R for Roger. I don’t know how I got those analogies from but anyway [laughter] O-A-R, so when you take a look at those piece of paper, you’ve got the- the vertically down– the top, you’ve got the words oar, O-A-R and beneath that red line we’ve got the word bed, B-E-D. Now, each one of this letters stand for something and what we gonna do is we’re going to work on the below the line letters now, and when we, when we, this applies to our thinking so I want you now to think when things happen to us, we have a choice, we have a choice we can operate, we can make decisions above the line or we can make decisions below the line. Now, when we make our decisions below the line, the B stands for Blame. When we’re making decisions below this red line, making choices or decisions below the red line, we can blame people of things for the situation that happens to us. Say my situation where someone run into us with a– a–, with their car while we’re driving, um, we could blame that person for running into us, so blame is is is the first one when we operate. When we thinking below the line, we’re blaming, um, we can also E, the E, um, uh, letter under the line is Excuse. So we can have excuses for why this thing is happening to us, um, we can make excuses that the driver run into us, uh, because you know, wasn’t looking or whatever. Uh, we can make excuses why our business is in the current state that’s in because of the economic conditions, because the customers are doing this all, because the supplies are doing this. There is a lot of ton of excuses starve hunt doing something, so they’re all excuses, that’ the E in BED and then D is Denial. We can deny that we had any role in that. We can deny, we can remove ourselves from it an blame and we can have excuses and we can deny the situation. So that’s bed, B-E-D, thinking below the line and when we think, we think above the line and we start with O, in oar O-A-R, remember I said the letters O-A-R then we doing mental pictures just revisit those in case you forgot those. O-A-R, we thinking of O for Ownership, we are owning the problem. Um, A is for Accountability we are, we are accountable for the situation, we are taking ownership of being accountable for this situation that’s that we face with or the situation that we’ve gotta make a decision about. We are owning the problem and we’re being accountable for the problem and the R stands for Responsible, we are being responsible for the problem, we’re taking responsibility for the situation, you know, maybe somebody else’s faults but we are stepping out as a leader of our business and have our team and people and families and friends. We are being responsible and and owning the problem, being accountable for the problem and being responsible. So that’s OAR BED is the, um, is the mindset tool that’s called, not my model, uh, I didn’t make it out, I don’t know who did but it’s a very-very good model and I love the way, I love the way, uh, of thinking about this. When things happen, you know, and when you memorize this, you actually, it does become quite automatic in your thinking. So when situation do happen, you got to hang on. And we’re blaming here or am I taking ownership here. Am I um, Am I, is this just some excuse I’m giving here? or you know, I’m being accountable and and actually stepping out for my team and my people and we do this as leaders, um, it gains better respect and and so many great values and so many great outcomes can come out of it. Better decision making and better situations, better outcomes. Yeah. So, um, when we thinking below the line, we’re coming from a victim mentality. Okay? This is happening to us, this driver running to me in my car, um, when we taking ownership of or when we thinking above the line, we are victor, we’re a victor of of the situation. We come on top of the situation with better outcomes with better respect, with better, with better–, just a better decision all around you know and just a better business as well. And-and this is how I want you. This is my message for you today and something that I want you to take away. It’s a model of OAR BED. O-A-R thinking above the line and B-E-D thinking below the line. Now, there are situations that all happen to you and um, when they happen, um, by the way I’ll put this model on the show notes so you can- I’ll have this in the show notes for you, so you all be able to see it. Um, if you go to businessmadeeasypodcast.com/episode68, I’ll draw the diagram and I’ll put it there for you so that you can actually feel free to use and all or grab a copy of it so businessmadeeasypodcast.com/episode68 and that will be there for you as well. But just quickly, um, when we.. It is possible to start our thinking below the line when something happens to us, um, you know, your first reaction when someone runs into your car or something, something bad happens, your first reaction is to, is to blame. um, or if you’d cause something to happen it’s easy to have an excuse or make an excuse for something happening to you. But what is really, so it’s okay, it’s okay to start off your thinking in that below the line situation but where true leadership comes in and and mastery of this is when you make your decisions above the line. So your first thoughts are below the line, this has happen to me, um, this situations happen in my business. This situations happen with my team or my team is doing this or my customers are doing this. Um, that’s okay, um, you know, the economy is doing this, my business would be better if the economy was doing XYZ. Yes, of course, it would, all our businesses would be doing great if the economy was doing certain thing or technology was doing us a certain thing or whatever. You know, customers are doing us certain thing. We all have better businesses but the decision making, the decision that we make and how we choose to respond to our situation should be always above the line. Always thinking ownership, accountability, responsibility. How can I make the best decision out of this, um, out of this situation. It’s going to be for my end goal, my ambition, um, and and sometimes as I said the upset sometimes that road is a hard road, you know, sometimes we’ve got to not take the easy path which would be below the line type thinking. But you know, it’s easier to blame someone for something or but, you know, when we step up and think above the line, it’s a harder road at times you know, we have to make those harder decisions and we have to take those harder actions and but.. take them because they were worth it every second of the day. Every time. I found that myself in business, you know, I will put myself through, um, my wife is actually telling me this last night, uh, when we went out for dinner just saying like, um, one of the things she’s noticed about me is that I’m relentless in my continuance of I will not just stop doing something until it’s actually achieved. um, she like, um, she like to turn them to exercise where we have a big lump of concrete in our backyard we had to remove on time when we’re doing our renovations and um, she said stop seeing you you just get a chisel and a hammer and just keep heating it until it goes away and she has a.. it’s just that, it’s just one of her the qualities that she– [laughter] she had a lot it last night at dinner which I hadn’t thought of before but um, I guess we gotta have that in business you know, you gotta think above the line and be, be relentless in your determination to get to learn in game and get to your goal. Make sure you had a end game and make sure you had your vision and all those sort of those and we’re talking about about those before in previous episodes but, make sure, um, you do take ownership, take accountability, be the victor and and you know, own that problem and get it, get it sort of for well and good. So that’s my message for you today, um, uh, I want you to think about that model OAR BED. I think of the red line and the middle of the page and O-A-R and the top, coming written down vertical. I mean B-E-D down the bottom and someone actually pointed out to me one time to that, um, the- and um, the word bed B-E-D, you know, you make your own bed, um, and that’s, that’s being a victim you know I’ve heard that we all heard of that say. O-A-R is ride your own boat, um, which means you had choice over your- your destiny and what you gotta had so go ahead and think a way about it as well. Alright, that’s all I had time for this week and something really important I want to share with you, I hope you find that valuable, I certainly use that model in my thinking everyday now and I love it. It’s, um, been a really good shift for me to find that model, um, I’d love to know who actually did invent it but, uh, we’ll come up with it ’cause really, really um, effective and I hope you found it effective too and uh, I hope you enjoy it and don’t forget I’d put a diagram over on the show notes for you so that you’ve got access to whatever there and you can see exactly the model in action and feel free to use it yourself as well because um, yeah it’s a great. Use it with your team, that’s actually one place that I have found this model really really well when you’re talking with your team and they coming in and giving you problems and that sort of thing and you can say “Oh, hang on”. You know, if you educate them with this model, you can actually say “The way you thinking above the line here or below the line”. You know ask the question of them, and you, you know, get better answers and better outcomes for sure. Absolutely for sure. So alright. Thank you so much for joining me. I’m glad, glad you join me today and um, if you haven’t already done so, um, you know, remember to hit that subscribe button, um, if you’ve got that question you wanna answered in business, feel free drop me a line at [email protected] I’m answering questions over for anybody, I’ll answer your question on the show and uh, gotta great a gift for you as well for a–. If your question get featured on the show, um, by all means do that. So, uh, you just drop me a line at [email protected] or hit the red record button on the business made easy website as well. Also, get you a letter or record your question there. Alright. That’s it all I had time for. Thank you so much for joining me this week. I hope you have an awesome week. I’m off to Bon Jovi and uh- [laughter] I’ll let you know how it went. I’m sure it’s gonna be a big night. I believe we got some great sits so um, that’s gonna be, that’ gonna be great to see the boys in action. Alright, that’s it for me until next week. You take as me and everybody else have a great week. Take us out. Thanks. Cheers to your success.

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